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4 Simple Parenting Habits for a Stress-Free School Day Morning

by Jonathan on August 23, 2012

I know first hand how stressful school day mornings can be. At the time of this writing, we are getting back into the school day routine. Some parents dread the start of school. All they see is grumpy kids, angry parents, and late arrivals.

A few years ago, that was a typical morning for us. We decided enough was enough. We sat down to diagnose the problem. You know what we discovered? We were the reason for most of the stress. We had not set up our kids or our schedule for success.

It is kind of like taking a 2 year old to the grocery store in the afternoon instead of letting him have a nap. Is his bad behavior in the grocery store entirely his fault?

4 Simple Parenting Habits for a Stress-Free School Day Morning

Here are some simple routines we started to have a stress-free school day morning.

1. Prepare the Night Before

stress free school day morningMy wife is great at preparing. It is her strength. She has the kids’ clothes ready to go. We also have created a place for all the book bags to be hung by the door to the garage (see pic). This eliminates the need to do last-minute searching for the kids’ book bags. What can you do the night before that will eliminate a to do from your morning routine?

2. Create Margin in Your Morning Commute

Most of us already know this but we just don’t do it. Why do we figure out the absolute last minute we need to leave? You can save yourself much heartache by bumping your “have to leave” time by 10 minutes. Creating a bit of margin in your routine can work wonders.

3. Provide a Devotional Thought for the Day

We also built a few minutes into our routine to share some wisdom with our kids. As they are eating their breakfast, I will share with them a verse from the Bible or a quote that offers a great teaching moment. I want them to start off their day right. This helps them create a desire for learning and growing.

4. Give Positive Words of Affirmation

We all have bad mornings from time to time. Our thoughts will guide our behaviors. Everyday as the kids leave for school, I offer positive words of how great the day is going to be. I always end it by saying “Make it a great day for someone.”

I want them to know that life is not all about them, but it is about others. You find greater purpose in this life when you lovers others as you love yourself. Kindness happens when we create margin in our lives. Kindness happens when we seek it out.

What habits, routines, tips or advice do you have about school day mornings with your kids? 

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Amy-Beth-Miller/1460935999 Amy Beth Miller

    Those are good tips, Jonathan. For the past few years I’ve had my daughter, who is still in elementary school, choose her clothes for the week on Sunday. (Depending on what we’re doing, her deadline is before lunch or before dinner.) She loves to check the weather forecast. I love handling style disagreements when we aren’t tired or rushed. (“No, you can’t wear the tie-dyed tights with the plaid skirt.”)

    • Jonathan Milligan

      “I love handling style disagreements when we aren’t tired or rushed.” <—- This is huge. My wife and I have had many discussions about this. Great point!

  • Lynne Watts

    As a mom and school counselor, I think this is a terrific set of ideas, especially allowing the margin for the morning commute and devotion/affirmation. More children would arrive at school ready to learn if they followed your guidelines.

    • Jonathan Milligan

      Thanks Lynne. This has been a 2 year journey for us as parents to setting a routine like this.